Mash-up of topics

Monday, January 30, 2012

Has it really been over a week?

It has all just escaped me. It's been so busy. I didn't even get to sit here once and write about all the things that were on my mind. A lot of things have taken a back seat to the job lately. That's why I am taking most of the day off to catch up on all my domestic duties (translation: the house is a wreck) so I'll just highlight a few topics from last week and mash 'em all up.

Family: We were able to see Belén play basketball at a home game which was great. She scored 3 points. Jon forewent his bowling night with the guys from church to see it. I didn't ask him to.

Blair and I mother/daughter double dated with friends to see Beauty and the Beast 3D. Blair declared it was the best date ever. Pretty much was.

Charley went to an 8 year-old's birthday party. The girl's birthday request was to go to McDonald's and have Charley over. She's a hit.

Reese is back in school. He was out a whole week with a high fever. The neighbor girls are happy. They've been knocking on the door ever since.

Trae-man is still the same. So much fun.

I am editing my brother's book. I think he has a best-seller there.

Personal: I squeezed in time for a facial. It was the first time ever that I've had one and I am SOLD! Have you had one? I know I'm late to the party but it was fabulous. That must be how the other half lives.

My hubby bought me this book. It's totally design inspiring. I take it all over the house with me so when I have a minute to sit and look through it, it's right at my fingertips. It gave me the boost I needed to get working.

I made a quick stop at the Thrift shop. It's been ages (for me anyway) but I scored a really cool side table. All the way home it smelled like fresh paint and gave me a headache (translation: it made me high.)

NFL Football playoffs: The games were really good this year but I was hoping for the Ravens and the 49ers in the Superbowl. Actually I was hoping for the Seahawks and least there will be some good commercials.

Local/National Headlines: Joe Paterno, the long-time head football coach for Penn State that was relieved of his duties a few months back - If you don't know about it, you can read the interview that he gave just before he died. I think the bottom line is that although he probably truly regretted not doing more, he washed his hands of it once he told his superiors, plain and simple. If you knew of an incident so vicious, involving someone that worked for you, and then saw him still on the job and working with a charity that helps underprivileged youth, some of the most vulnerable of all, wouldn't you go to your superiors and say, "Hey, what's up with that? Why is he still around? What's happening with the investigation? What did you do with the information?" The program, not the victim(s), was protected.

The latest debate: I hear a lot of sound bites but no explanation on how they are going to implement changes. Just HOW are we going to pay for all these things they are promising? Does anyone else wonder that? Everybody keeps leaving that part out. Speaking of pay, we filed our taxes and the exemption for a dependent child is huge this year. This could be the last year for the current tax rate structure which has been in place since 2003. It might not be worth it to work as much as I do and just go back to one income. We'll see what happens in November.

Pets: I took our sick dog to the Dr. and now she's back to her crazy self. I should have become a Veterinarian; they charge a small fortune. It's worth not having her gnaw her paws off anymore, though.

Professional: I have been helping to put together this Ladies Night. It's proven to be a lot of work but should be fun. Come, won't you?

Behind the lens: I'm still working on the latest photo session from the Train station. I've lined up a real live bunny and some chicks for Children's Easter portraits. That should be interesting. I made it clear that I don't want to keep them, just borrow them for a day. I want to explore doing pet photos this year. First up, Alpacas! Again, that should be interesting. Do they spit? Or is that a Llama?? I forget.

Have a great day!

Thought for the week

Sunday, January 22, 2012

A message that spurred a shopping spree

Saturday, January 21, 2012

A week or so ago I messaged the hubster to tell him I used his debit card to order something from one of my favorite stores. (They suckered me in with 20% off and free shipping!) I told him this because we have had troubles with fraudulent charges on our account which always involves trying to explain to someone at a call center what is going on and finally putting a stop on the card and being issued another... And I was too lazy to go upstairs and get my card.

His reply to my message was, "Happy Valentine's Day."

My reply to his reply, "In that case, I'll be ordering more."

And so I did...Happy Valentine's Day to me.

See a theme here? I kinda like stripes.

That's the fact, Jack.

Have a great Saturday!

Don't make me go all caps on you

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Okay, I really do have a couple craft/design posts coming, really, but I feel I have to say this since I keep reading those "guilty" mothering statuses on Facebook. And then I made the mistake of watching the bit on Anderson Cooper where a woman called stay-at-home moms "lazy" and I didn't feel the SAHMs defended their position very well. Some of their silence could be taken as agreement. Really, it's 2012 and we're still debating that?? Whatever.

Back to the guilt - So what is everyone feeling so guilty about? That you cannot measure up to your own demands? That you cannot measure up to a neighbor who seems to have it all together? Who is putting this pressure on you to be that perfect mom? I have been a mom for almost 17 years now and since then I have been told that there is no such thing as a perfect mom. Have you heard that too? If so, who is spreading this rumor to the contrary?
And to whom are you comparing yourself?
Where is this SuperMom that everyone seems to think exists? She seems like the Sasquatch of suburbia to me. I would like to meet her.

Bottom line: Guilty feeling mothers - you gotta STOP thinking this way! It's self-imposed and we have to stop it or our daughters will grow to think the same way.

I've met some good moms, sure, and I have friends whom I admire and are good moms but I don't think they are perfect moms. I think the mothering they do works for them. And that is where I think women should be: doing what works for their family and being the mother that fits them, their personality, their lives. (Unless of course this involves being mean. And when I say "mean," I really think abusive but that's a whole other story.)

I don't think we could ever get to all that we want to do and in the way we want to do it. Restrictions on time and money contribute to that so we've got to pick and choose and be happy about it. Let the guilt fall and leave it there.

By my mom's own admission, she had plenty of imperfections. I knew that. But guess what?? I didn't care. I don't even remember them anymore, really. Nudging me awake at midnight on a school night to get hot chocolate at Shari's restaurant is one of my favorite memories of her. Just she and I out and about. Giddy from being tired, we'd laugh and laugh about stuff and then would laugh about laughing so hard. A "perfect" mom probably would've made her children get their rest for school the next day. I am so glad she wasn't a perfect mom.

So remember this: Your children love you despite what you think of yourself. Don't continue to waste your time worrying about whether you're being a perfect mom to them because frankly, you're not. But you're better, you're their version of a perfect mom. And theirs is the only version that really matters.

I'm done wagging my finger at us now. :)


And because we like pictures with our posts, here's a picture of my horses (2nd picture.) Mine was the black one. The Midnight Champion was his show name but I just called him "Middy." Star Countess was my sister's but we just called her Star. She was a diva. (Horse not sister.)

The house where I grew up is in the background on the hill between the two horses. There I was raised by imperfect people who loved me a lot.

A winter girl

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Dear Charley,

While your hair and your name tend to set you apart, it's really your concern for those that need extra care, respect for others and love for your family that will always get you noticed. You are a quality person. You could be taught in the finest academic institutions and go on to have the most prestigious career but without you being a quality person, it would be useless.

I hope you continue to recognize, use and enhance your God-given strengths. Charity is not something so easily given and for most, it's a learned behaviour. But for you it was given when God kissed your head and sent you on your way. You are a lucky one.

I love it when a person from your school will ask me somewhere, like at the grocery store, "Are you Charley's mom??" and when I say yes, they say, "Oh, I looove Charley!"
I tell them we feel the same way. So do your brothers and sisters. They love you forever.

Forever - I never tire of thinking in those terms. I hope you don't either.

Happy birthday, Charley.

Love you, Momma.

With Belén and me, 1 hour old, Texas

5 months old, Utah

14 years-old, Pennsylvania

I want to know - a parenting post

Monday, January 16, 2012

What do you think of people who go on and on about their kids?

The reason I ask is because I just received an e-mail about the Rotary Club essay contest and how this would be a great thing for the youth of my church to enter. The first thought in my head was, "Of course! It's a great community event, Belén placed in that a few years ago." And then the thought hit me that no one ever knew that. I guess I never said anything. And then I remembered that Charley won the Dare essay contest as well, and no one knew that either.

So the question is, when do I announce these things? (besides 3 years later here on a little blog) Or do I even need to? Am I doing them a disservice by not making a more public statement? But I know my daughters and they would absolutely say it was no big deal. So for whom am I making an announcement? Do I want people to think that my kids are really great or do I want people to think that I'm really great for having kids make these accomplishments?

Really, do those types of things matter? Am I just over thinking this all?

They are nice but we tell our kids that their actions speak louder anyway so their best accomplishment would always be that they are polite people who know how to speak with adults.

And so, those other accomplishments are just enjoyed over a molten, chocolate lava sundae, without any fanfare. I don't even think we could locate the awards anymore. I'm sure they are in a box somewhere.

BTW - I actually have some craft projects almost done! The schedule has not allowed me to get them done as quickly as I wanted but today the kids are home and I don't have to go out so much. I better get a move on!

Quote for the week

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Just move forward regardless of the world.

~Joseph B. Wirthlin

One liner

Friday, January 13, 2012

If you're happy, tell your face!
(That's the only thought I got.)

Busy schedule this weekend but I've changed my hours around and how I go about doing things so that time that I thought eluded me? still here. I just need to work a little smarter, not harder.
(Okay, that's two thoughts.)
Have a great day!

The everyday

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Last night I had a dream that Jon was speaking to the grocery butcher in a British accent. I looked over at him in a "what the heck are you doing??" look. So then he was talking to all sorts of people and he said he was from Surrey. Then a few friends of ours walked in and I had to distract them from hearing him. So how would you analyze that?

We put up the drywall and mud & taped the bathroom after our cutting-through-the-water-line fiasco. I hope we can completely finish by the end of the month. I decided to put a paint treatment on the ceiling so I just added more work for myself. Reveal to come later. How do you feel about ceiling stripes?

I've been working on putting together a Ladies night for work and it's busy. It's going to be really fun but all the computer work left me with a 2 day headache. There will be a chocolate fountain at the event, you should come!

I have two kids with fevers of 102.7 but you wouldn't know it because they are so happy still. Maybe it's the medicine.

Blair & I were flipping through the channels and we saw a commercial for The Bachelor. No thank you and the bachelor looks like he's 12. Blair asked why they were skiing without clothes because, she said, when she went skiing it was cold. I said it was because they're dumb. Is there a better reason?

Belén has her learner's permit so we are having fun letting her chauffeur us around. I could get used to a chauffeur, for real. On James...

Funny notes

Monday, January 9, 2012

I love it when simple products make me laugh like these notecards from Sapling Press.

Quote for the week

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide on, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Friday Finds

Thursday, January 5, 2012

I love all things vintage pennants, varsity letters and other collegiate memorabilia. Over the years I have seen so many great items and have stashed away a few for myself, like my dad's high school letter he earned playing basketball. Lucky me, it's an "M" and in one of my favorite colors, orange.

I have found some nice pennants along the way also; one of my favorites is from our local high school from 1934 which got me looking for other area high schools. Then the other day I came across this wool throw and I wasn't even looking for anything - I was just looking. It was $5.00 but when I went to pay for it, it just happened to be 50% off. My lucky day - twice. I think it was probably a lap blanket for Football games. You know those Booster clubs!

After a quick dry cleaning, it now sits at the end of one of the boys' bed.
Thanks, Manchester-whatever-you-are.

New Year's Day

Sunday, January 1, 2012

We dined on a hundred mile special delivery takeout and played a new board game that tested our trivia knowledge, but mine was more like testing how well I could guess. :) We sang karaoke until our voices were hoarse and laughed at song choices for each other.

We ended it with a big finish by tag team singing to Bohemian Rhapsody complete with head banging and bringing it home by singing all together. We rang in the new year by counting down the ball drop on Times Square and blowing our horns at midnight.
It was loud and kids were dancing everywhere. A perfect night.

I hope yours was too. Lots of good things to come in 2012!